At lunch today it was announced by a very large woman wearing coke-bottle glasses and a floor length fur coat that I was extremely rude. She said it not once, but a few times as I put my utensils in the bin and my trash in the trash. I felt heat rush to my face. What had I done?
I had offered my seat to a friend and her daughter-in-law who’d seen me and swung by my table to say hello just as I was finishing up my salad. After catching up for a few minutes I said my goodbyes, gave them my table, and was happy to have caught up with Betty (who’s 86 and every ounce of awesome that you can imagine). I thought I was being nice. I had no idea there was a line of one just drooling for my table.
“That was extremely rude...”
I am not so good at confrontation. It’s really hard for me because a million thoughts rush through my head as I try to understand what’s going on and I am rarely eloquent or composed in response. Especially when blindsided over something I didn’t know I did...or, more importantly, is NOT a big deal in the scheme of things. I mean it’s a SEAT lady:) But weirdly it sort of stuck with me these last few hours. Why was she so adamant about making me feel terrible? So that I go and pull Betty out of her seat and tell her that fur-ball was waiting first? C’mon.
If I’d had the presence of mind I would have smiled kindly at Coke-Bottle Glasses Woman and said, “I should hope that a friend’s kindness will be of service to you one day.” and been on my way. Instead I just pretended she wasn’t talking to me and walked out the door, head held high in my valiant attempt to make me feel better. I KNOW it's no big deal I KNOW everybody has their bone to pick with the world but I hate it when I am included in that Bone. Which is why I stopped thinking about it soon as played this song (well, after wrote this blog:)). Just don't fight it... Worrrrrd:)
A good song by The Panics. When doesn't a trumpet signal good things?!